HI Beautisul souls ,
Thank you for stoping by for this weeks blog .
As an empath myself and one that has been in a relationship with a narcissist for many years ,I know these truths too well. It is sad and you do not see them straight away ,but eventually you will have to face it.
As empathic souls we are built to want to help others ,it is just in our nature ,we can not help but see the best in someone and want to give them love .
When we are in a relationship with a narcissist and are on the other hand of their manipulation tactics, we feel obligated to help them because they always play the victim .As humans taking on someone elses problems bares a heavy weight on that person , but with empaths ,we can take on more than most ,which is why the narcissist has choosen you .They are not in love with you ,the can not be in love with you ,because they do not understand what love is and they are with out empathy for anyone .
The love you think is real is a lie and one day you will have to face the truth .
5 painful truths all empaths face when in a relationship with a narcissist are …….
- The narcissist is not a special soul that needs all your attention ,devotion and the deep love you give to them .They are only after control and all the attention and love and devotion you give is all disposable to the narcissist, which will happen when you do not follow through on all their requests .
- You as an empath is highly attractive to narcissit .The narcissit on the other hand is not attractive at all .You however did not see this because they start with love bombing you and thats how they draw you in .This behaviour though soon ends when they know they have you .
- As an empath you like I said earlier, have a high level of tolerance for abuse .They know this and that is why they know you will stay with them beyond what any other person would put up with .
- They are not interested in your deep thoughts and the way you see life ,they just pretend they do to draw you in .Then when they feel like they have you watch out .All that you have said will be used against you ,to mock you ,to put you down and yes to control you a little bit more.
- They have created a FOG in your brain .You now fear them ,you feel obligated to listen and do what they ask but most of all you feel guilt because they have made you feel bad .
These people are not your soulmate .Soulmates do not use the other for their own gain and agenda .Your soulmate will be someome who is just like you .They do not always come in a romantic relationship ,sometimes they are just one of your best friends .It takes time to get to know someome ,if someome uses the word soulmate in the first week of knowing them ….run the other way .This person is most likely a narcissist .If you are in a relationship with a narcissist right now and are thinking about leaving but finding it hard , know this ,you have given more to this person than most people would .Nothing you do will change them ,they will never change .
Go heal from the abuse ,bring yourself back into a balanced life and allow a happy life to follow .
Big hugs ,you got this x
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